You’re doing long distance, she’s been on vacation way too long, or you’re too tired after work to go over to her place. No matter what the situation, you’re really fucking horny. How to handle it? There’s always porn. There’s also phone sex.
Phone sex is sorta tricky, though. Not everyone does it, and it’s not one of those sexual things you just naturally know how to do or have plenty of time and practice to figure out. Still, you should do it. And it’s possible to do it well or horribly.
Here are 10 tips for dominating in the bedroom… on the phone.
1. Talk about verbal turn-offs.
If you’ve done dirty talk much before, you’ve probably learned how she feels about vagina versus cunt versus pussy. Maybe she thinks it’s hot to be called a whore. Maybe she thinks it’s degrading. You’ve probably got your own preferences when it comes to dick versus penis versus fuck stick. Haha! But really. Everyone’s got their preferences. If you wanna avoid turning her off with certain phrases, just have a little conversation about it.
2. Sext.
One way to build up to phone sex is sexting. This, of course, includes sexy photos, too.
3. Touch yourself.
Unless she springs it on you in public, be somewhere where you can get it on.
4. Keep going, even if it’s awkward.
If you guys are new to this, the worst thing to do is quit too early your first time. It’s going to make it harder and harder to do it again, like dipping your toe in cold water over and over again instead of getting in the pool. Just dive in. You can laugh at awkward moments or work together to make it work, but never, ever, give up.
5. Don’t just use the phone.
But it’s phone sex! Right? Well, yeah, but the definition of phone is pretty blurry these days. Alternate between phone sex and Skype sex. With Skype sex, obviously, you get to see everything going down. And that’s exciting. Phone sex has its own benefits – you can’t see each other, so you can imagine you’re doing absolutely anything together and really dive into shared fantasies.
6. Think up a situation.
It’s not just about what you’re doing to each other. It’s where you are, how you got there, how you’re feeling, and what you’re thinking. If you don’t know about each other’s favorite fantasies, have that talk ASAP. Then make them a reality. The more detail the better.
7. Take it slow.
Just like real sex requires good foreplay and a bit of teasing, phone sex is best when done slowly. Don’t go straight into crazy thrusting. Start real damn slow. Tap into your creative, poetic side and describe everything you’re doing in explicit, pussy-tingling detail.
8. Don’t hold back.
Teenage girl looking her messages to mobile phone
Moan into the phone. Breathe hard into it. Get fucking dirty.
9. Go through exactly what you’re doing to each other.
Sure, you could tell her you’re lying in bed and stick to what’s literally true. Or you could act as if you’re actually with her, actually fucking her. Example: “I’m pushing up your skirt around your waist and slowly kissing and biting up the inside of your thighs. I’m getting so fucking close…”
10. Charge your damn phone.
Beginner’s mistake? Get cut off right in the middle of it.
