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Porn Can Harm Your Relationship: Here Are 8 Reasons Why

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Males young and old, and even happily married husbands watch porn. Studies show that 50 to 99% of men watch porn.

Couples therapist David Greenan says that males watch porn for different reasons such as personal gratification, escape mechanism, and to deal with anxiety, loneliness, and feelings of inadequacy. It’s also a man’s way of exploring his fantasies in a confidential way.

Regardless of your reasons for watching porn, this activity can hurt your sex life and relationship, especially when your partner doesn’t approve of it. Porn can make wives and partners feel inadequate or unattractive.

Though some sex therapists admit that watching porn can have some positive influence on your sex life, it still has negative influences that may hamper your sex life and even relationship. The following are just some of them.

Porn can make you feel inadequate

One of the reasons why depression is on the rise is the belief that others have better looks, better assets, better bodies, and even bigger packages. These are some of the things that can make you feel not good enough.

Porn stars promote what we call “ideal bodies”, which make them physically and sexually attractive. In reality, these people struggled hard to maintain that waxed and falsely tanned bodies. Men proudly exhibit their large penises making you believe it’s the only thing women are after of in their partners.

If your reason for watching porn are these superficial packaging, you’re being duped. Most women don’t care how many inches your package measure up. What they’re after is how you use it to satisfy their desire. Well, unless you really have that super small dick, which is rare.

Stop fantasizing of having a penis that is as large as what you see in vanilla porn. It can only distract your attention in real sex situations. Hot sex is ideal within a relationship, but women still prefer a man who could be there for them through thick and thin.

Porn can affect your sexual performance

According to research, the brains of men who watch porn repeatedly can be conditioned to the novelty and vigorous intensity seen in porn. This can become a problem when they’re with less stimulating partners in the real world. As a result, they’ll find it difficult to come to an erection, have delayed ejaculation, and unable to reach to an orgasm.

Porn can give you false expectations

Porn Can Harm Your Relationship: Here Are 8 Reasons WhyStop believing that just because women in porn are willing and available to engage in sex whenever and wherever your partner is able to do the same. In the real world, this is just not the case. There are times when women aren’t in the mood for a variety of acceptable reasons.

Stop expecting that because your partner gets horny, she’s able to do those acrobatic sex acts you see in porn. Wake, up. She can’t. If she does, you’re lucky.

Stop believing that you always have those rock-hard erections. Let’s face it, there are times when you can be tired and lazy too. You have to accept it because it’s completely okay. You can’t always be the sex god you believe yourself to be.

Porn can’t provide you with real life tricks

Porn is plain fantasy. The porn stars are only actors who already know what moves can trick you into believing it’s real. You can’t just strip your woman in under two minutes and make her orgasm unless you’ve been doing a lot of foreplay.

Most porn tricks are only done by the pros. If you’re a beginner, you need to have a lot of sex education to know that such isn’t real. Being inexperienced makes you an easy target of porn.

Even when you’re a pro, your partner needs to be a pro also to do the tricks you see in porn. But this seldom happens. Women need time to heat up. And you’d be doing her a favor when you take the effort of asking her what position she loves best and then execute it with the best foreplay you can come up to.

Porn can promote unsafe sex

Real life sex can have unwanted consequences like getting your woman pregnant when you’re both unprepared yet for parental responsibilities. No porn actor ever pauses and slides on a condom while his partner is arching and howling.

Porn can make your woman feel insecure and inferior

Porn Can Harm Your Relationship: Here Are 8 Reasons WhyWomen who catch their partners watching porn can feel inadequate or unattractive. They feel their partner has sexual fantasies and longings they’re unable to satisfy. And this hurts. This is putting them in a position where they feel they’re obligated to be as good in bed as the women in the porn and to look as sexually attractive as they are.

The truth is, women in porn have gone through massive surgeries and stage makeup to keep men to fantasize over them.

Porn can encourage cheating

For most women, watching porn feels like cheating on them. They expected their men to be monogamous and watching porn doesn’t feel like one.

Another thing is porn can likely get you addicted to it. Once you do, you’re likely to satiate your sexual fantasies with a woman outside your relationship. Porn watching no longer satisfies you in the long run and you’ll start fantasizing doing the sexual acts with another more stimulating sexual partner.

Porn can harm the way you perceive your partner

Studies in porn revealed these alarming findings: porn dehumanize both men and women; porn makes women as nothing more but objects of sex; porn depicts violent behaviors against women; porn promotes the fallacy that women are always available to satisfy men and give them pleasure.

If you do care for your partner, you don’t want to see her in the above situations. And you don’t need to dehumanize yourself by giving too much focus on your sexual satisfaction.

A healthy romantic relationship is not only defined by the sexual satisfaction one or both partner get. It’s also strengthened by mutual love, respect, intellectual, and emotional connection. Without respect or connection other than the physical, it can crumble.

Watching porn might be your thing, but you have to ensure you’re not hurting your partner or the relationship. But if it’s your means of escape for an otherwise unfulfilling existence, then something might be wrong in some areas of your life. You need to ask for help before it’s too late or before you can only wish to have your woman back.

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