An old saying goes like this, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” This means old folks have already figured out how to win a man’s heart that easily. But it seems winning a woman’s heart is a bit more complicated. No matter how men try to shower her with affection, still something is missing. She feels her man is not doing enough. You might have heard of this a lot from your relationships too.
Does this mean women are beings hard to please? Not so. Despite their differences and preferences, women are a lot like men when it comes to sex and relationships. They want great sex. They want an amazing partner. They want to wake up in the middle of the night with the person they could not live without.
Perhaps, this is how you figured out your relationship to be. Only that finding the right person with the perfect “chemistry” could be daunting. The thing is, it takes time and effort to be with the most valuable person on the planet.
The right person doesn’t just fall from heaven while you’re sitting on your laurels. You’ve got to find her. Once you find her, you’ve got to know what to do to make her stay. Or, maybe you’ve already found her, but some aspects are preventing you from enjoying each other’s company.
Sometimes, it’s not the things you do that irritates a woman. Instead, it’s the things that you don’t do. If you’re wondering what they are, listen to the following tips from women. They say these are what make them fall for you. Once you win their heart, they couldn’t help but share incredible sex with you and make your life fantastic.
1. Giving her love
Sometimes, we mistake sexual attraction for love. Sex can make a relationship fulfilling. But when it’s anchored on sexual attraction alone, it will soon lose its value.
Women want to feel loved and desired. They want both of these to be present in the relationship unless she’s okay with one-night stands or friends with benefits. However, love is first and foremost what makes a relationship thrive. Without love, your relationship will end the moment a disagreement comes up. Love is what makes you forgive each other. It’s what makes you come to win-win solutions and hold on to each other.
Love is what a woman seeks. If she feels she’s not loved enough, she will get jealous when you spend time with your friends. This can affect not only the quality of your relationship but your sex life as well. She’s not likely to perform well in bed when she feels love is missing. You need to ensure she knows that you love her dearly.
2. Providing her safety
Women came from different backgrounds. In some cases, they carry their environmental influences in their sexual relationships. Women who are exposed to negative sexual influences can have difficulty in expressing their sexuality. Opening up could be difficult for them because it can clash against their self-esteem. Hence, they need a space where they feel they’re safe to express their sexual side. You then must help your partner develop trust in you and the relationship.
In terms of sex, make her feel it’s okay to know what she wants and tell you about it. Say things in a nonjudgmental way whenever you need her to improve on something in bed.
3. Bestowing her your undivided attention
No, she’s not clingy. Women are highly emotional beings who have to be just that. She wants you to know every time she’s in pain.
However, women can’t be vocal about their feelings. There are times when they refuse to tell what they’re going through but only wish that you would notice. They don’t expect you to be with them in this emotional roller coaster but to act as their emotional support.
Refuse to judge them as crybabies because, most often, it’s those hormones. Showing that you care is enough for them to know that you can always be with them. By the way, great sex can help them improve their mood. When your partner is feeling low, you already know what to do.
4. Earning her trust
Women want their men to be accountable. She wants to count on you. This is the easiest way to earn her trust or the easiest route to distrust you.
When you promise her something, like taking her out on your anniversary, ensure that you do all you can to fulfill this promise. Failing to fulfill it would be a total disappointment regardless of the reason. It might not cause great havoc on the relationship but when small untoward things add up, it could be a recipe for disaster. Breaking her heart often enough can ultimately kill the spark.
5. Letting her feel sexually desirable
Being wanted and sexually desired for delight a woman. Sex is the fulfillment of a woman’s femininity. And it makes her sexually fulfilled when she feels she’s able to provide you sexual fulfillment and satisfaction.
Letting her know how great her body is and how incredible she is on bed enhance her sexual confidence, which can fuel her to perform much better next time.
6. Showing her respect
Most often, the people we hurt the most are the people who mattered to us the most. This happens because we’re too comfortable in their presence that we let our defenses down and show our worst self.
Don’t be too comfortable in your partner’s deep love for you to abuse it. Respect should always be present. Whether you’re cuddling with each other or having a fight, try to maintain respect because it matters to your partner so much. Some even say that if you can’t love a woman, at least, show her some respect.
7. Lending a listening ear
Communication is always key to successful relationships, be it romantic, business, or friendship. In romantic relationships, women feel more at ease to men who make the effort of listening to what they have to say.
Your partner may not open up the most interesting topic for you, but what matters is not the content of what you’re hearing. Rather, it’s the act of listening, of lending an open ear when she wants to be heard. Women love to communicate. You’ll surely win her heart when you’re able to converse till the wee hours of the morning.
8. Offering endless support
One reason why women welcome men in their life is that they need someone who can support them through the ups and downs of life. Women need men who can be their shoulder to cry on, someone who can be their strength when their own is failing.
Being a supportive partner means providing her needs, helping her in child-rearing or offering a helping hand in household chores. Women are strong species but there are times when showing her vulnerable side comes naturally to her. And it’s in these times that your support is a big help.