The threesome. It’s hot. It’s on your bucket list. And your girlfriend doesn’t want to have one. The story’s all too common. It’s too risqué for her or she doesn’t want to share you with anyone else. She feels threatened by another woman (or man) getting into bed with you. These are fair concerns, but threesomes are really fucking hot. And you’ve always wanted to have one. Here are 7 ways to convince your girl to have a threesome:
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Tell her you get to explore your sexuality.
Maybe she’s never been with a girl but has always been curious. Maybe you’ve run out of kinky things to do with just two people. No matter what, though, having a threesome is going to let you explore your sexuality further. And that can’t be a bad thing.
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Tell her she gets to be spoiled out of her mind.
You’ve got two people who are there specifically to make you feel fucking awesome. One person can spoil the top of you while another gives you head. The variety of positions three people can get into together is huge. You’re going to feel fucking amazing and you’re going to get multiple orgasms no doubt.
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Talk to her about her fantasies.
Encourage her to open up about what she would want out of a threesome, about any fantasies she’s had about other women or men – think multiple positions, double penetration, etc. Watch porn together and get excited about what you could do in real life.
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Look for a girl or guy together.
If you’re both a little shy about it, hit a dating website and type ‘threesome’ into the search bar. This way, you can see who on there is interested in having one. If you’re a little braver, hit up a club and start getting your game on. Don’t make it all about you or her. You’ve gotta pick the person together for the best possible experience.
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Tell her you won’t feel tempted to cheat on each other.
This is a tricky one. You don’t want her to feel like she isn’t satisfying you on her own. But if you guys have a history of cheating in past relationships, it’s a fair argument. So many couples end up cheating because they’re not getting their sexual needs met. It’s a harsh truth, but a lot of people just aren’t good at monogamy. They want more. A threesome is a healthy way to be open about your needs outside the relationship without having to sneak behind each other’s backs.
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Agree on rules and boundaries.
Men’s and women’s legs. A man and two women.
She could be totally cool with you going down on another girl but freaked out when it comes to you putting your dick in her. She could be into another girl but a little uncomfortable about another guy. She could insist that it’s a one-time thing. Whatever the rules are, make sure both of you are comfortable with what you’d be up for doing.
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Don’t pressure her too much.
If you pressure the hell out of her, you’re just going to turn her off from it even more. You don’t want to make her feel like she’s only doing it to please you. You’ve got to convince her she wants it, too. This might take time, but slow and steady wins the race.
