Every sexual experience is different on its own. This is because people are not the same. What works with your previous partner may not work for the new one. This means you should always be open to all possibilities without sticking to your most favorite strategy or approach.
One of the most common pitfalls men make in bed is not making an effort to know what their partner wants. While orals are a useful tool for orgasm, don’t forget that she wants the real thing.
Most women do prefer penetration. We combed through Reddit and some other places to know why. Women provided the following reasons.
“I like the feeling.”
One female Reddit user says she liked the feeling of the penis inside her. For her, there’s no other reason why she goes to bed but to enjoy the experience and the feeling.
“Straight women like penises.”
One user emphasizes that as a straight woman, she likes penises. Her answer is about what other users pointed as which is better, relationship with lesbians or straight guys.
“Lots of people suck at oral.”
We heard this often. Some women hate orals because they haven’t yet experienced one that blows their minds away. We can’t blame them because in truth, some people do suck at giving oral. Might as well check your performance if you’re the type who loves giving oral. Ask honest feedback from your partner before you commit the same mistake. Remember, you can always improve.
“Flesh and blood are better than plastic.”
This woman refers to sex toys. She wants the real thing because she prefers to feel the flesh and blood. Toys may be fun, but they lack the warmth of real flesh. In this case, this Reddit user wants nothing but the real thing.
“It’s more intimate.”
Penetration is more intimate. This woman says orals and handheld dildos feel awkward. She wants the intimacy and connection present during penetration.
The feel of the flesh entering her enhances the feeling of the connection she has with her partner, which is more enhanced when they gazed at each other while he enters her.
One woman says it’s the mutual pleasure taking place that makes her prefer penetration than orals. This is very much true for most of us. Giving and receiving pleasure at the same time is much better than receiving or giving it alone. Only penetrative sex can provide both of you the same pleasure at the same time.
“Oral sex requires vulnerability.”
This woman is sensitive to the needs of her partner. She knows that you need to be vulnerable enough to either give or receive orals, hence, it should be given back. Both partners should enjoy sexual pleasure and not just the other person.
“Men are completely different from me.”
This woman nails it more beautifully. She says she likes penetration because it gives her the chance to come into contact with someone whose body is much different from hers. She admits she has had sex with both males and females but says sex with males feels much better.
His size, his muscles, and his coarse hair are totally different from hers, making her long for his strong and stubbly chin on his lady parts. Additionally, with a man, it’s easier for her to know when they’re done, unlike with a woman partner where she’s clueless when to stop.
“It feels better.”
One woman couldn’t say more than “penetration feels better.” This woman also admits having sex with women, but she says sex with men is much different and much more fun. This can be because males and females have different energies that feel good when interacting together. These merging of different energies wouldn’t take place when you engage in same-sex intercourse.
“I like a combination of the two.”
This woman says she feels greedy because she prefers the combination of the two. She can’t enjoy one without the other. In truth, she’s just a normal woman who relies on orals to make her wet. She would no longer have orgasm problems during penetration because she already had it. Besides, having orgasms before sex makes penetration less painful for her.
This woman gives more emphasis on her hygiene. She’s afraid she doesn’t smell good down there, thus she prefers penetration than orals. Having someone’s nose close to her private parts also makes her uncomfortable. If you meet this type of woman, you better give her some understanding. It can be hard to make her do things she’s not yet prepared to do.
“I’d rather look my fiancé in the eyes.”
Gazing at each other’s eyes during sex is sweet and romantic. That’s why this lady prefers penetrative sex than orals. She says she doesn’t want to look at the top of her fiancé’s head while he’s down there.
“It was all about me.”
This woman is brutally honest to say that she used to prefer orals because most men she met didn’t notice her other parts. But when she met a boyfriend who is a master in the art of thrusting and able to notice her other body parts, penetration felt much better.
“It depends on the partner.”
Women can’t help but compare their past and present boyfriends. This woman says her ex was much better at orals while her current boyfriend is good at penetration. They might be different, nevertheless, she enjoys having sex with them.
“I like being filled up.”
During arousal, women can feel that there seems to be a void between their thighs that’s reserved only for the penis. This is what this woman points out.
She says she needs her partner to stimulate her clit for orgasm, but she also feels the need to be filled up, which only happens during penetration.
“I enjoy my boyfriend.”
This lady is super sweet. She says it’s easier for her to cum when he gets down there, but she emphasizes orgasm isn’t everything. At other times, she can’t even finish but it doesn’t matter to her. She says she enjoys her boyfriend, enjoys intimacy with him. For her, the journey is all that matters.
There you have it, most women prefer penetration than orals. By now, you might have been wondering whether your partner prefers you to go down there or go straight for the prize. If you know yourself well enough and are confident in your performance, then you don’t have to guess.