Words have power if you only know how to use them properly. When it comes to sex and relationships, talking dirty helps a lot. Some men have the best sexual prowess but often fail to prove their worth due to poor skills in using the right words.
Yet, some men immediately win the hearts of women without doing anything other than talking to them most convincingly. In short, they’re using the power of words to make women get thrilled and excited. They learn how to talk dirty and nail it.
Dirty talk requires lots of skills. If you use it poorly, you might end up appearing too aggressive or pushy. The purpose of dirty talk is not to have sex with her right then and there. It doesn’t work that way. A great dirty talk is one where you’re able to stimulate her mind, guide the flow of her imagination, and let her see and feel in her mind the pleasurable things the two of you can potentially enjoy. Once implemented right, dirty talk can act like a physical stimulation that can arouse her senses and sexuality.
Teasing her with words can stimulate her mind and can lead her to fantasize about you and the things you can do to her. She will not only long to be with you in bed the soonest but will orgasm quickly when you’re already at it. This is because a woman’s body needs to be prepared for great sex. And the shortest way to prepare her is to stimulate her mind with the use of correct words of arousal, which is achieved through the art of dirty talk.
If you think the outcome depends on the type of girl you’re dating, you might be wrong there. Basically, all women respond to dirty talk more positively. But, of course, you need to put in more effort and do it more slowly and gradually until she gets a bit more comfortable with you.
This means you need to consistently plant the seeds of attraction and mental stimulation for weeks if you have to. If the girl is more sexual, then, it might take hours. But to be sure, seeing her and strengthening the connection for weeks are the best techniques that can encourage her to lay down her defenses and to start trusting you. When you feel she’s already comfortable with you, you might start implementing the following techniques:
1. Start asking her questions that can lead down the “dirty” path
Don’t immediately ask her about what she’s wearing during sleep. Start with questions that she loves answering, like her favorite foods, places, and words. As the conversation gets interesting, ask her about the one thing she wants to do in bed but haven’t gotten around to doing it yet. Asking her about the craziest thing she had done to a guy during sex might also do the trick.
2. Flirt with her
Another way to start a dirty talk is by flirting with your partner. Help her recall your previous intimate moments together. Assuming you’ve had incredible sex, return to it and tell her how you wish to do it again.
3. Use the right words
In dirty talking, the choice of words matters. The dirtier the word, the sexier and the better it is on the ears. Don’t call her “vagina” a vagina. Instead, use sexy and dirty words. Calling it a pussy is more suitable.
4. Initiate erotic conversations
Erotic conversations are the best place to start talking dirty. You can begin by using imaginary situations. Share with your partner the things you want to do to her that you haven’t done in bed yet. You can also create scenarios like being on an island where you’re the only humans present and are both naked. Expand your imagination and let it run wild and hot.
5. Use the phrases you used during sex
Make sure that you give her compliments during sex like telling her how perfect her breasts are or how you love nibbling her nipples. You can use these words on your dates or in your text messages. You can tell her you can’t wait to nibble on those cute nipples again. Women love compliments and this one’s a sure winner.
6. Use your phone
One of the best ways to talk dirty and to build up anticipation is through texting or Facebook messaging. This enables the buildup of sexual tension to progress. Doing it skillfully might even get her to orgasm. Once the two of you meet, you may no longer talk about what you’re going to do because you’ve already started with the sexually enticing foreplay.
7. Have phone sex
Other times, when dirty talk over the phone gets more heated up, it can lead to phone sex and orgasm. Some people do this when they’re already in bed and wear something sexy. It takes a minimal effort on her mind when you’re able to convince her to imagine that your hands are sliding down inside her lacy red panties. Or, tell her your cock is hardening just by hearing her soft voice. Before you knew it, both of you made it out to orgasm.
8. Use your horny voice
While what you say matters, how you say it matters more. Even if you mumble nonsense words, as long as you use it in your sexiest voice, it can make all the difference. But don’t overdo it, or else, you might scare her. Saying things in your sexier masculine voice can give her the chills and make her want for more.
9. Be spontaneous
Try to say things more naturally and confidently. Just because you’re learning the art of talking dirty, you’re out to make every phrase perfect. Say things the moment the thought comes in your mind. Besides, uttering the same words over and over again can be boring. Use different words to keep things exciting.
10. Think sexy
Last but not least, think sexy and, well, a bit dirty. Everything that you say starts in the mind. When you feel you’re sexy and a bit dirty, words will flow through you more naturally. The more natural you are, the more confident you become. And women do love the combination of confidence and dirty talking.